The Real Life Hitch

In the relationship aspect of my life, I've seen it all. I've hurt those who I meant the most to and the ones who meant the most to me hurt me in return. It's karma to perfection. I've had every emotion that the H can stand for. All of the pain, hardships, tears, and confusion become all too familiar. It's all situational depending on what we go through. But nonetheless, I've seen it all through my own experiences or vicariously through a friend in need. We take the actions and responses and take that into perspective and develop our own judgments to create a measuring stick of what not to do and when not to do it.

I feel like that I'm the real life Hitch at times. Well, there's actually a real life Hitch that the movie was based on (David Coleman) and maybe I'm just the Asian remix of him. I shouldn't take credit for being Hitch because I know that we all feel like this at some point in our lives. It's just a part of life and it makes us better people for it.

What makes me like Hitch? I'm knowledgeable with how to handle relationships for others. Understand the sensitivity of women and insensitivity of men. Understanding that nice guys finish last and how the game works on both sides of the table. Being the pursued/pursuer is all a mind game. So even when it's all spelled out to you, the knowing is only half of the battle. Even when everything I want is in front of me, I struggle with my own relationship(s). Guys are blind or too dumb to see the quality of the person in front of them. Again, this works both ways.

I enjoy being there for others. I've made mistakes and I've endured a lot to know how to help others benefit from my struggles. The other night, a friend chose to confide in me and tell me about their problem. With one or two sentences into the conversation, I was able to map out the whole issue and inform them on the problems/ misunderstandings from their perspective as well as the perspective of their significant other. In this particular scenario, it was the feelings, mindset, and confidence of the significant other that was damaged. It was like deja vu in my book, so I gave my input on how to fix things over time and helped them try to reestablish that bond and trust that used to be there.

In a discussion about this topic with another friend, I was told that I was like a fortune teller who could never tell my own fortune. This entry isn't a complaint or anything in that nature by any means. It's an acceptance. I know my role. To stay true to my words about wanting to make a positive difference for others gives me all of the satisfaction that I'm looking for.

“Love is when the other person's happiness is more important than your own.”